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|Posted on August 21, 2020 at 5:45 PM||comments (0)|
Parents, students and school personnel survived the first week of school. Congratulations to all of you.
To the parents who opted to do virtual learning this semester, discipline is going to be your super power. So what is discipline? Getting up on time, have breakfast, get school dressed, have homework done and play attention as if your child was in class physically. Parents must take the lead in this type of discipline. If children think they can negotiate with their parents to not complete assignments, not log on to their class or decide to play electronic games, you are losing.
Parents set up a schedule, discuss it with your child and stick to it. Please make time for recreation, arts and crafts and finding creative ways to see grandparents and friends. Just know, we will get through this together.
|Posted on August 10, 2020 at 7:12 AM||comments (0)|
Parents it is time to send your children back to school. This year is going to be different than ever before. Students will have anxieties about classes, meeting new classmates, additionally this year safety is at the forefront. Begin talking with your children about hygiene issues. Of course bathing, fresh clothing, brushing teeth and now doing The Five. These five behaviors can keep your child safe.
In school, students practice fire drills. These exercises help children get out of dangerous environments. At home, practice The Five: Wash your hands, cough into your elbow, Don't touch your face, stay 6 feet apart and if your child is feeling sick, please keep them home.
|Posted on July 25, 2020 at 12:41 PM||comments (0)|
RULES TO TEACH YOUR SON:
1. Never shake a man’s hand, sitting down.
2. Don’t enter a pool by the stairs.
3. The man at the BBQ Grill is the closest thing to a king.
4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.
5. Request the late check out.
6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
7. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.
8. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.
9. Play with passion or don’t play at all…
10. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.
11. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.
12. If you need music at the pool, you’re missing the point.
13. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.
14. You marry the girl, you marry her family.
15. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
16. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.
17. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.
18. Never turn down a breath mint.
19. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.
20. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.
21. Thank a veteran. Then make it up to him.
22. Eat lunch with the new kid.
23. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.
24. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.
25. Manners maketh the man.
26. Give credit. Take the blame.
27. Stand up to Bullies. Protect those bullied.
|Posted on July 24, 2020 at 10:33 AM||comments (0)|
Get Home Safely: 10 Rules of Survival
1. Be polite and respectful when stopped by the police. Keep your mouth closed.
2. Remember that your goal is to get home safely. If you feel that your rights have been violated, you and your parents have the right to file a formal complaint with your local police jurisdiction.
3. Don’t, under any circumstance, get into an argument with the police.
4. Always remember that anything you say or do can be used against you in court.
5. Keep your hands in plain sight and make sure the police can see your hands at all times.
6. Avoid physical contact with the police. No sudden movements and keep hands out of your pockets.
7. Do not run, even if you are afraid of the police.
8. Even if you believe that you are innocent, do not resist arrest.
9. Don’t make any statements about the incident until you are able to meet with a lawyer or public defender.
10. Stay calm and remain in control. Watch your words, body language and emotions.
|Posted on July 12, 2020 at 4:48 PM||comments (0)|
Racism and Children of Color
According to American Academy of Pediatrics, “Racism is a socially transmitted disease passed down through generations.” racism is a pervasive social issue that plays a large role in the environment, children grow up in, the quality of their schools, the air they breathe, the water they drink. Thus, Racism affects children physically, economically, emotionally, socially and in so many other ways. Children who grow up in neighborhoods exposed to lead, food, desserts, violence are more likely to engage negatively with the police, experience health issues such as asthma, obesity, childhood cancer and diabetes. There are few job opportunities, transportation is limited, fewer safe recreation facilities, limited opportunity to purchase fresh fruits and vegetables, while having an abundance supply of tobacco, e-cigarettes, and alcohol.
Children exposed to racism have higher rates of suicide, depression, stress and their self-esteem are impacted. Children may shy away from participating in school activities or may become more disruptive as they cannot express themselves in inappropriate ways, consequently, get suspended at a greater rate than their white classmates. A child may react by withdrawing from activities they use to enjoy or speaking up less in class.
What Can parents do?
Parents need to be active in their child's life. Keep lines of communications opened and be observant to their children's mood swings. Start by acknowledging your own biases.
1. Model appropriate behavior in thoughts, feelings, and actions.
2. Expose children to culture and point out the contribution made by their ancestors.
3. Volunteer and participate in civic activity.
4. Participate in the election process, modeling to children that they can vote people into office that can change policies to make life better for their community.
5. Include in family vacation museums, and historical site where children can expand their cultural knowledge.
6. Visit friends of a different race place of worship, parties and other social activity.Additional Resources to Help Parents Address Racism & Discrimination:
· Help Your Kids Find Books with Diverse Characters (Common Sense Media)
· Apps and Games with Diverse Characters (Common Sense Media)
· Beyond the Golden Rule. A Parent's Guide to Preventing and Responding to Prejudice (Tolerance.org)
· A Conversation on Race (New York Times)
· Racism and Its Impact on Child and Adolescent Health (AAP Policy Statement)
Ashaunta Anderson, MD, MPH, MSHS, FAAP & Jacqueline Dougé, MD, MPH, FAAP 6/25/2020
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|Posted on July 4, 2020 at 8:00 PM||comments (6)|
|Posted on June 30, 2020 at 9:58 PM||comments (1)|
Children Books On Race & Inclusion
By Angela Ding
Why is Nita Upside Down? By Roxana Bouwer, Sarah Bouwer, Emma Hearne
Sometimes, we fear that others won’t accept us because of the things that make us unique – whether we look different to others, think differently, or have other interests. The reality is that everyone of us is different in some way, and that is our strength. This short picture book is a celebration of dark-skinned bodies of all kinds.
In Skin We Are In, Uncle Joshua explains to his inquisitive nephew Njabulo the science of skin tone and how it does not affect what someone is on the inside. He also explains the danger of attributing certain characteristics to race, recounting to his nephew about how these ideas led to European colonization, from which dark-skinned people still suffer under to this day
My Special Hair By Candice Dingwall
“My special hair is full of love. With love my hair is crowned. It grows and grows and grows until I spread it all around.”
Ebony Sea By Irene Smalls
“She saw the whips, the chains, the beatings. She saw the joys of the Johnkankus, the cornshuckings, the starlight walks, the faces of her unborn children […] She wanted to go home.”
These are e-books that can be obtained with your mobile phone or Windows 10 tablet.. Open any browser on your mobile phone and type in worldreader.org. This is a great way to learn about race and improve reading skills.
Children are questioning the behavior of adults as they watch the news or see a protest in their community, This is an opportunity to have quality time learning, exploring feelings and gaining more understanding of different cultures.
|Posted on May 22, 2020 at 9:38 PM||comments (0)|
A sincere hand clap goes out to all parents. You have become the teacher, the cheerleader, a full time cook and housekeeper, while still holding down your job.
It's break time! While it might be difficult to take a real break, think of ways you might sneak in a little "me time". A cup of coffee, a glass of lemonade, a crossword puzzle, a little dance, a silly song, things to lift your spirits. If you can't get away for a few minutes, engage the kids in a fun event with you, This could even mean to drop everything and head for the door. Go in the back yard for a scavenger hunt, walk around the block with your masks on, or go for a short car ride and then return to your previously scheduled school work or job assignment. Breathe in, breathe out. Count to ten, click your heels and finish your own self talk statement. "Don't worry, be happy, there's no place like home, Chocolate chip cookies for dessert, etc." It's your break, use it wisely.
|Posted on May 11, 2014 at 5:43 PM||comments (17)|
To My Children: I am blessed to have heard from you all today and everyone was well and not in trouble. That’s the best Mother’s Day gift ever. I would like to thank each of you for allowing me to have such an active part in your life. I literally mean that. I remember entertaining your friends at our house as that was the place to go for food and fun. Allowing me to be a short order cook. Everyone had to have a different dish for dinner. Going on all those school trips. Especially the time I went to the Zoo with Chris class. I had dressed inappropriately for the weather. I guessed that was pay back for going on that trip. I talked the teacher into allowing me to go on the trip with the class. I warned her that if anything happened to any of the kids, I would hold her responsible. She made room for me on the bus. We went to the Zoo in Ann Harbor, Michigan. I had on fancy shoes and a light jacket that day in March. Not so wise a choice. However, I survived an achy body and bruised feet, but enjoyed the trip. If I had not been at the Zoo, I would have been the best dressed mom on the trip. However, getting back to exercising: I was the main taxi cab driver for you guys to school; being PTA president, participating in the fundraiser, monitoring homework assignments, going to all those recitals, Tae Kwon Do classes, dance classes, football games, and so on. Then in the summers, we came to North Carolina, where I inherited my nieces and nephews. We went so many places all summer long. People thought I operated a Day Care Center. So you can see exercising can be more than pumping iron. I know Moms all over can say, been there, done that! “Happy Me Day” and Happy Mother’s Day to everyone!
|Posted on December 30, 2011 at 7:23 AM||comments (10)|
Stop! Think Before You Speak: Words Can Hurt
Ugly, fatso, stupid, fag, nappy, black, nerd, weird, bad, lazy, crybaby, dummy, loser, moron, sissy, chicken, etc. What do these words have in common? They are small words, with big implications. They hurt! Children were taught, “Sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt.” However, they can surely break hearts. The truth is, harsh and mean spirited words can be just as deadly to our self esteem as weapons drawn against us.
According to scriptures, In Ephesians 4:19, Paul reminds us, it is okay to be angry, but don't sin--don't use damaging words, condemn or tear down someone's self-esteem. The sin doesn't lie in the expression of anger, but in the way we use it. We can choose to express anger in healthy or unhealthy ways--in ways that heal or hurt. There is a difference between getting angry and being an angry person. When the expression of anger dominates our life and personality we are no longer a person with anger, but an angry person.
Proverbs 12:18 says, "Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." Reckless words can rip the ones we love into pieces. Words that build up and are patient, kind, good, gentle and loving create peace.
James 3:2-12 says the human tongue can do so much damage. It can ruin friendships, cause misunderstandings and put a wall between brothers and sisters. We have all been guilty of saying hurtful things. We must be ever mindful that what we say can damage and cause divisions. Before speaking, remember; words can ruin. Words can damage; words can kill. Words can demolish reputations and destroy relationships.
Consequently, Stop! Think Before You Speak: Words Can Hurt. Below are a few suggestions to help you avoid saying something you might regret.
· Step back from the situation to help you to quiet your emotions.
Remember the Golden Rule: Do unto other as you will have others do unto you. Also as mom use to stay, "If you can't say anything good about a person, keep you mouth shut!"