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Parenting and season shopping

Posted on November 27, 2021 at 7:05 AM Comments comments (17)

So, you survived Black Friday or are you left with buyers’ remorse? How was your spending? Did you go out shopping with a list, with priorities to buy or did you do impulse buying? How is your cash flow this morning? Are you stressed out, having headaches and feeling overwhelmed?

What we know, based on research, is that the things children need will not be found on store shelves, on-line shopping, but rather, in your home. It is true, children need gifts when they wake up on Christmas Day. However, they need parents who are mentally and emotionally present in their lives. They need the stability of a loving and peaceful environment, adequate food warm shelter and clothes. Clothes doesn’t have to be Nikes and other brand names. Is that latest gaming system, cell phone, etc. what they really need? Just a few questions to ponder. Is the holiday gifting more for you or your children?

Bruce Lee made a great statement about children needs. It is worth considering during this busy time of giving.

Building Self -Esteem

Posted on October 23, 2021 at 5:15 PM Comments comments (0)

Self-Esteem is the foundation of building strong children.  Self-esteem is comparable to self-worth. It determines how much value one place on themselves. Self-esteem develops early in life and continues into adulthood. Children who face name calling, put downs, bullying can experience low self-esteem.

Praise your children, give them tasks that they can find enjoyable and meet some level of success. As parents, we need to set the tone as good role models. How we handle difficulties, will teach children how to cope with life problems.  Remember, it is more difficult to repair than build!

 

 

 

 

Child Tax Credit

Posted on July 16, 2021 at 4:00 PM Comments comments (1)

June is Men's Health

Posted on June 12, 2021 at 4:25 PM Comments comments (1)

Virtual Learning and a Parent Super Power

Posted on August 21, 2020 at 5:45 PM Comments comments (0)
Discipline, A Parent Super Power

Parents, students and school personnel survived the first week of school.  Congratulations to all of you.  

To the parents who opted to do virtual learning this semester, discipline is going to be your super power.  So what is discipline?  Getting up on time, have breakfast, get school dressed, have homework done and play attention as if your child was in class physically.  Parents must take the lead in this type of discipline.  If children  think they can negotiate with their parents to not complete assignments, not log on to their class or decide to play electronic games, you are losing.  

Parents set up a schedule, discuss it with your child and stick to it.  Please make time for recreation, arts and crafts and finding creative ways to see grandparents and friends.  Just know, we will get through this together.

Practice the FIVE

Posted on August 10, 2020 at 7:12 AM Comments comments (0)
It's School Time! Make it a SAFE Year.

Parents it is time to send your children back to school.  This year is going to be different than ever before. Students will have anxieties about classes, meeting new classmates, additionally this year safety is at the forefront.  Begin talking with your children about hygiene issues.  Of course bathing, fresh clothing, brushing teeth and now doing The Five.  These five behaviors can keep your child safe.  

In school, students practice fire drills.  These exercises help children get out of dangerous environments.  At home, practice The Five:  Wash your hands, cough into your elbow, Don't touch your face, stay 6 feet apart and if your child is feeling sick, please keep them home.

RULES TO TEACH YOUR SON:

Posted on July 25, 2020 at 12:41 PM Comments comments (0)

RULES TO TEACH YOUR SON:

1. Never shake a man’s hand, sitting down.
2. Don’t enter a pool by the stairs.
3. The man at the BBQ Grill is the closest thing to a king.
4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.
5. Request the late check out.
6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
7. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.
8. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.
9. Play with passion or don’t play at all…
10. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.
11. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.
12. If you need music at the pool, you’re missing the point.
13. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.
14. You marry the girl, you marry her family.
15. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
16. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.
17. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.
18. Never turn down a breath mint.
19. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.
20. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.
21. Thank a veteran. Then make it up to him.
22. Eat lunch with the new kid.
23. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.
24. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.
25. Manners maketh the man.
26. Give credit. Take the blame.
27. Stand up to Bullies. Protect those bullied.



Police & Youth Encounter

Posted on July 24, 2020 at 10:33 AM Comments comments (4)


Get Home Safely: 10 Rules of Survival 
 
1. Be polite and respectful when stopped by the police. Keep your mouth closed.
2. Remember that your goal is to get home safely. If you feel that your rights have been violated, you and your parents have the right to file a formal complaint with your local police jurisdiction.
3. Don’t, under any circumstance, get into an argument with the police.
4. Always remember that anything you say or do can be used against you in court.
5. Keep your hands in plain sight and make sure the police can see your hands at all times.
6. Avoid physical contact with the police. No sudden movements and keep hands out of your pockets.
7. Do not run, even if you are afraid of the police.
8. Even if you believe that you are innocent, do not resist arrest.
9. Don’t make any statements about the incident until you are able to meet with a lawyer or public defender.
10. Stay calm and remain in control. Watch your words, body language and emotions.
 
 
 
 
 

Racism and Children of Color

Posted on July 12, 2020 at 4:48 PM Comments comments (5)
 
Racism and Children of Color
 
According to American Academy of Pediatrics, “Racism is a socially transmitted disease passed down through generations.” racism is a pervasive social issue that plays a large role in the environment, children grow up in, the quality of their schools, the air they breathe, the water they drink.  Thus, Racism affects children physically, economically, emotionally, socially and in so many other ways. Children who grow up in neighborhoods exposed to lead, food, desserts, violence are more likely to engage negatively with the police, experience health issues such as asthma, obesity, childhood cancer and diabetes.  There are few job opportunities, transportation is limited, fewer safe recreation facilities, limited opportunity to purchase fresh fruits and vegetables, while having an abundance supply of tobacco, e-cigarettes, and alcohol. 
 
Children exposed to racism have higher rates of suicide, depression, stress and their self-esteem are impacted.  Children may shy away from participating in school activities or may become more disruptive as they cannot express themselves in inappropriate ways, consequently, get suspended at a greater rate than their white classmates.   A child may react by withdrawing from activities they use to enjoy or speaking up less in class.
What Can parents do?
Parents need to be active in their child's life.  Keep lines of communications opened and be observant to their children's mood swings.  Start by acknowledging your own biases.
1.      Model appropriate behavior in thoughts, feelings, and actions.
2.      Expose children to culture and point out the contribution made by their ancestors.
3.      Volunteer and participate in civic activity.
4.      Participate in the election process, modeling to children that they can vote people into office that can change policies to make life better for their community.
5.      Include in family vacation museums, and historical site where children can expand their cultural knowledge.
6.      Visit friends of a different race place of worship, parties and other social activity.
 Additional Resources to Help Parents Address Racism & Discrimination:
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·         Help Your Kids Find Books with Diverse Characters (Common Sense Media)
·         Apps and Games with Diverse Characters (Common Sense Media)
·         Beyond the Golden Rule. A Parent's Guide to Preventing and Responding to                Prejudice (Tolerance.org)
·         A Conversation on Race (New York Times)
·         Racism and Its Impact on Child and Adolescent Health (AAP Policy Statement) 

 Ashaunta Anderson, MD, MPH, MSHS, FAAP & Jacqueline Dougé, MD, MPH, FAAP  6/25/2020
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