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Finding Mr. Right when Mr. Perfect Doesn't Exist
| Posted on December 28, 2021 at 5:30 AM |
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Life is much sweeter when we take charge. While every woman dream is to find the Perfect Man, he does not exist. Men like women comes with imperfections. We can however look for Mr. Right. What's right for you may not be right for someone else: define your priorities, set your boundaries, get off the couch!
Dr. Phil, who wrote the best-selling book Love Smart: Find the One You Want — Fix the One You Got, offers tips to finding your Mr. Right.
1. Leave the house.
"The one" isn't going to come knocking on your door or appear on your couch.
2. Visit target-rich environments.
Depending on who your Mr. Right is, you might frequent church, temple, batting cages, sporting events, music festivals, art galleries, parks, philanthropic events, bookstores, coffee shops or hardware stores.
3. Get out of your comfort zone.
"Go to places you'd enjoy even if you weren't looking for the love of your life,” he explains. That way, you will meet someone who has something in common with you. "As long as you're really into what you're doing, you're going to give off a cool, passionate vibe that makes you seem like the catch of the day.”
4. Mix up the people you go out with.
Don't always hang out with a pack of girlfriends — but for safety reasons, never go out alone either.
5. Have a strategy for meeting men at these new places.
Being prepared will ensure that you are not flustered when you see a man you want to approach.
6. Be prepared with your opening questions.
If you have these questions ready before you meet him, you won't feel pressure to think of a conversation topic, so you'll feel more confident and relaxed.
Discovery
| Posted on December 21, 2021 at 6:50 AM |
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Let this season be more than a box under the Christmas Tree. It is personal and it is for you to discover.
MinervaJourney Podcast
| Posted on September 28, 2021 at 7:55 AM |
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https://anchor.fm/minerva-freeman
Join me for my inaugural Podcast coming soon..The energy is with us. Let's share! This Podcast will be bi-monthly.
Healthy Relationship Seminar
| Posted on January 9, 2013 at 4:28 PM |
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Get ready for an exciting event. Join us for a fun and educational seminar dealing with healthy relationships. You will be inspired as you interact with other couples and singles participating in a relationship feud game and solving a highly charged mystery. You will enough a tasty lunch while solving this cliff hanger. Mark your calendar for February 23, 2013. Place to be announced soon. For information call Minerva at 252 258-3522 or leave a note at the website. |
Wake up Everybody!
| Posted on June 4, 2012 at 10:51 PM |
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Today, this song by Harold Melvin/the
Blue Notes, “Wake Up Everybody” kept
dancing in my head. Here is a little of it: Wake up everybody no more sleepin in bed
No more backward thinkin time for thinkin ahead
The world has changed so very much
From what it used to be so
there is so much hatred war an' poverty
Wake up all the teachers time to teach a new way
Maybe then they'll listen to whatcha have to say
Cause they're the ones who's coming up and the world is in their hands
when you teach the children teach em the very best you can. Wake up everybody. We need a call for
action. We need to stuff this song in
our hearts. It appears that if we just
sleep walk, just go with the flow, we are headed off a cliff. What happened to the days when neighbors
helped neighbors, when corporations did things in the community to lift up the
community, rather than using their money to influence politics? Why is it so hard for adults to work
together, yet we admonish children to speak with civility, not be angry, not to
fight, work together in a cooperative spirit, etc. We
hear the ministers talk about the ways of Jesus, yet they do not advocate for the social
programs that could help to change lives of women and children. No one person or institution is to blame for
the plight of the country by themselves, however, we can speak out for
fairness. As the song says, “There is no time for backward thinking; it’s time
for thinking ahead.” Let’s join hand
with common purpose, realizing that when the least of us improve our lot in
life, we all win! |
Sticks, Stones and Bones
| Posted on December 30, 2011 at 7:23 AM |
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Stop!
Think Before You Speak: Words Can
Hurt Ugly, fatso, stupid, fag,
nappy, black, nerd, weird, bad, lazy, crybaby, dummy, loser,
moron, sissy, chicken, etc. What do these words have in common? They are small words, with big
implications. They hurt! Children were taught, “Sticks and stones may
break your bones but words will never hurt.” However,
they can surely break hearts. The truth
is, harsh and mean spirited words can be just as deadly to our self esteem as
weapons drawn against us. According to scriptures, In Ephesians 4:19, Paul reminds us, it is okay to be
angry, but don't sin--don't use damaging words, condemn or tear down someone's
self-esteem. The sin doesn't lie in the expression of anger, but in the
way we use it. We can choose to express anger in healthy or unhealthy
ways--in ways that heal or hurt. There is a difference between getting
angry and being an angry person. When the expression of anger dominates
our life and personality we are no longer a person with anger, but an angry
person. Proverbs 12:18 says, "Reckless words pierce
like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." Reckless words
can rip the ones we love into pieces. Words that build up and are
patient, kind, good, gentle and loving create peace. James 3:2-12 says the human tongue can do so much
damage. It can ruin friendships, cause misunderstandings and put a wall between
brothers and sisters. We have all been guilty of saying hurtful things. We must
be ever mindful that what we say can damage and cause divisions. Before
speaking, remember; words can ruin. Words can damage; words can kill. Words can
demolish reputations and destroy relationships. Consequently, Stop! Think Before You Speak: Words
Can Hurt. Below are a few suggestions to
help you avoid saying something you might regret. ·
Step back from the situation to help you
to quiet your emotions.
Remember the Golden
Rule: Do unto other as you will have
others do unto you. Also as mom use to stay, "If you can't say anything good about a person, keep you mouth shut!" |
Coping with Grief
| Posted on October 29, 2011 at 8:41 PM |
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Coping
with Grief Do not grieve, for I am not there, the poet
encourages us to not stand by our loved ones grave and grieve. However grieve we must. We grieve the loss of the person. We grieve
for the things they left undone. We
grieve for the glorious times we shared, then we grieve for ourselves. Losing someone you love is very difficult. Often
times it opens up wounds that were scabbed over long ago, then past hurt and
pain comes rushing back to the surface and the wound is torn open like it
happened yesterday. Why was this sore
not dealt with? In some cultures, the
rule is to say nothing, hold your piece, just get through this period and all
will be well. Unfortunately, it does not
work. It is as important to go through
pain as it is the joys of life. While grief is a personal experience, unique to each
family member and unique to the loss of a parent, a sibling, a child, or
extended family members, each person must find their own coping
strategies. The following strategies
provide a few suggestions to help you ride out the emotional waves as you cope
with your grief. Coping
with grief and loss: Helpguide.org. provides some great tips to help you
ride out your storm. First and for most,
take care of yourself. The stress of a major loss can
quickly deplete your energy and emotional reserves. Looking after your physical
and emotional needs will help you get through this difficult time.
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Social Media: Friend or Foe?
| Posted on October 1, 2011 at 1:19 PM |
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Social Media:
Friend or Foe? I decided to search my name on the web and I was surprise about the
information that was out there. It is
giving me an opportunity to assess what I should keep in the public domain or
reserve some information for private/personal friends to see. Technology has created a means for people to
sit at home and be connected to millions of people with the click and send bottom. We can now share our feelings and frustrations
about family, friends, co-workers, relationships, and a night out with the
girls or guys, your imagination is the limit. As we sit typing and clicking, sometimes
we might even dramatize an event or a mood.
For example, “I need a drink after dealing with my boss today.” “I am going to kill myself if I get another
call from my Ex.” Or “I have been up all night doing my thing; I do not know
how I am going to get through the day.” So
the question is would you want potential employers to get to know you through
social media? Would you want to lose a potential roommate because they or their
parents have searched the web and found questionable information about you? Think about ways you can build an online
profile that will help you obtain a job, advance your goals in other areas of
your life, rather than causing a door to be slam! What can be done to clean up potential problems on social media sites? 1. Check out what’s
on your site. Is it painting a true and
responsible picture of you? 2.
Material you just want your friends to see should be
set up with privacy settings. 3.
If you have pictures of a “wild night” of partying, beers
drinking, etc., remove them from the public domain. 4.
Remove posts of a “personal nature” from the public
domain. 5.
Be careful of who you “friend”, especially clients,
students, or business customers. 6.
Remember, we are linked-in to the world through our
friends! Do we want others to know we have friends with a questionable past? Therefore, using a search engine such as Yahoo, Google, Bing yourself,
assess your information, is it the find of profile you want potential business
associates, employers, and people you have intimate relationship to make of
you. |
Happy Father Day
| Posted on June 15, 2011 at 9:03 PM |
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On this Father’s Day weekend, we
want to salute dads, fathers, step dads, and other men who influence children. In this pop culture that tends to
trump traditional values, we are perplexed on every hand. Marriage and responsibility appears to be a
thing of the past. We are now into “self”
and doing things our way. Often times
not thinking what’s best for the children in our charge. We spend most of our
time trying to find ourselves. I suggest
you are not lost. Perhaps you are scared
of responsibility or failing your children.
Children however, accept their parents with all their strengths and short
comings. I would encourage dads to “just”
be there for their children. The rewards
are immeasurable. Children, who grow up with an
involved father, benefit in numerous ways: ·
They have a better sense of self ·
They are more goal oriented ·
They get into less trouble with the police ·
They tend not to get involved in
gang activities ·
They tend to be in better
relationships ·
Girls do not get pregnant as often
as girls in fatherless home ·
Children tend not to be in abusive
relationships ·
Children are less likely to commit suicide ·
Studies show that families tend to benefit
financially, emotionally and spiritually from dads presence. So dads, stay involve with your
children. Spend quality time with them,
set a good example, and respect the mother of your children, even when it is
hard to do. Support your children even when you are not in their lives on a
regular basis. I encourage men to do some soul searching about your relationship with your children. If things are not right, you can fix it. Think of Bob the Builder, "Yes you can!" |